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Matt and I were together for 10 wonderful years - met in 1998, married in 2002, until his untimely death on November 15, 2008. We have two beautiful, healthy children - Jacob (born 5/04) and Sydney (born 5/07)... the most precious gifts he could have ever given me.

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Better and better each day...

I feel like I've finally crawled out of that hole I was in, and boy do I feel a million times better! I have a sense of renewal and hope - what a difference. Such a difference in the kids, too - kinda makes my heart ache that they're so directly affected by my moods.

My sister reminded me to be kind to myself- it's the self talk that can really mess us up, and I hadn't been very kind to myself lately. So now that I'm seeing the light of day again, I'll try not to beat myself up for the fact that I probably put my kids through hell while I was going through mine.

Because I'm also feeling better physically (to which I really give Tae Kwon Do credit for this), it's making such a difference mentally. It's so freaking fun, and I'm finding it's not so hard to put my socks on in the morning! It's the little things... =)

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Turning a corner.

What a relief!

The kids and I started taking Tae Kwon Do together a few weeks ago, and we are all absolutely loving it!! Jacob hasn't taken an interest in any sports, but he is doing amazing on the piano. I wanted him to get involved in something physical, and I suggested TKD to him a while back, but he wasn't interested. Sydney took ballet for two years, but this year she decided she didn't want to continue. She was interested in trying hip hop, but they didn't offer a class in her age group. She had taken a brief TKD course through her elementary school last year and loved it, but when I asked her if she was interested in taking it regularly, she said no.

Because of my funk, aches and pains, low energy, etc., I decided it was time for me to become more physically active, and I had the idea that we ALL can benefit from Tae Kwon Do! All three of us can use the physical and mental exercise, focus, discipline, and it's something we can do together as a family. Win win win! I didn't give the kids a choice - I told them (and myself!) that we are all doing this together, and that's that.

It worked!! Sometimes it's better to not have a choice... They are totally into it and doing so well (and so am I). It's great bonding time for us, too. Even though we're together all the time (except when they're in school), we still don't have a whole lot of time together, and this has been great quality time as a family.

Between this, making some headway with the foundation stuff, and getting more organized than ever in the house, I'm feeling MUCH more together and sane. Phew! =)

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

The Long Draw...

Well, it's time to write....

In two months, it'll be seven years.

When Sydney turned seven, I thought of something I had heard of a long time ago - how our cells regenerate and by every seventh year of life, every cell in our body is different than it was seven years before. I'm not sure if that's scientifically true or not, but that thought has always stuck with me.

So now I'm thinking, the kids and I all have different cells than we did when Matt was alive. Isn't that a crazy way to think? That would mean that the skin he touched when he touched me, when he hugged the kids and tickled their little legs, is all new... Who thinks like this??

Lately I've been having a tough time, and this low is lasting longer and has been a bit deeper than it has been in quite a while. Not sure if it has anything to do with the seven year thing, or maybe it's because I'm finally allowing myself to feel stuff I've been repressing for the last seven years, where normally when I feel a wave coming on, I would either stifle it or distract myself with something I shouldn't. I'm also learning to ask for help which is a HUGE step for me.

Hoping this means when I climb out of this rut, I just may come out of it a little more healed and healthier than before.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Registration is now open for the 7th Annual Run for Row 5K!

Please join us for the 7th Annual Run for Row at Como Lake Park in Lancaster, NY on August 16, 2015!! Proceeds help fund scholarships for students who've lost a parent/guardian, and also help send their remaining parent to Camp WidowRun, walk, or just come to offer support and party with us at the best 5K after-party in town which includes Chinese auction, 50/50's, DJ, tons of food, and beer! 
REGISTER TODAY, and please help spread the word!

Friday, June 19, 2015

Catching Up

I can't' believe it's been four months since I wrote in here!!!

Let's see - since February, what's happened....

FEBRUARY - Sydney and I decided that I would take her to the Father/Daughter dance! We are both so happy we did it - she had such a great time! I wore one of Matt's ties with my skirt suit, and Sydney wore the beautiful powder blue dress that Aunt Michelle had given her for Christmas. Her best friend Penelope wore the exact same dress! I was the only mom there (that was escorting her daughter and not volunteering), and I felt a little out of place at first, but after seeing Sydney having a blast with her friends and not at all concerned with the fact that her dad wasn't there (at least she seem like it), I felt much better. The important thing was that she didn't miss out on this event.

MARCH - Two years in our home!

APRIL - Took the kids to Disney World with my niece Ariel during Spring Break! We drove, and that's the last time I'll do that unless we can take our time more and make some planned overnight stops that involve sight seeing or something to break up the drive a little more. I felt blessed we made it there and back safely with no accidents - especially since on the way home, there were so many accidents that it took an additional five hours to get back! We got to visit my dear friend Jenny while we were down there - it was so nice to have a chance to visit with her and her beautiful family, and stay for a couple of nights in her gorgeous new home. At Disney, we stayed at the Caribbean Beach Resort and it was fabulous!!! The kids had a blast at the pool, and Ariel and I enjoyed the Banana Cabana... =P  Our last day at the resort, and Jacob broke his tooth (for the third time in one year). This time, the dentist said it kept breaking easily because the other dentists attached the broken half of the tooth to the other half of his tooth, and apparently you're not supposed to do that. Instead, he put a crown on it, so hopefully it will hold a lot longer than before. It was a crazy, whirlwind, fun and completely exhausting week, but I'm so glad I got to show my kids Disney. My niece had never been there, either, so I was thrilled to be able to give her that experience, too! Next time it will be more relaxed - we'll make sure we fly, and have more time at the theme parks and enough down time to recover in between.

Right after we got back from Disney, I helped to move my mother from her house to an apartment closer to me. Her house was beginning to fall apart, and she is at the point where she can't take care of this stuff herself anymore. It was just too much for me to handle things at her house needing repairs, and things at my house also needing repairs (of course, this stuff happens simultaneously)... I've been helping her much more than ever since her health and stamina has been declining, and it is SO much easier having her only two miles away now.

At the end of April, the Run for Row Corp. had our first official board meeting in which we selected board members, and changed the name of the corporation to The Matthew R. Row Scholarship Foundation. This is the beginning of a whole new chapter!!! SO much to do, but it's all so very exciting!!! More to come about this soon - in the meantime, here is the blog for the Foundation (which serves as it's website).

MAY - Jacob turned 11, and Sydney turned 8! It's hard to believe how fast these kids are growing up, and how much their personalities are developed. Jacob had his middle school concert this month in which he played the tuba, and also was asked to perform a piano solo! He played the Pirates of the Caribbean score, and rocked it. He has such a natural talent for the piano, and it's quickly become his passion. My heart was pounding for him as he played, and even though he said he was a little nervous performing in front of so many people, he didn't show it at all. So proud of him!! Ginny and Roy visited from AZ for two weeks, and they had a chance to be a part of the kids' birthday party, and got to see Jacob perform. Sydney had dance pictures while they were here, so they got to see her in full costume and make up which is great since they weren't able to be here for her recital. Unfortunately, Ginny and Roy both ended up SO sick while they were out and couldn't do half of the things they would have liked to. Even though he was under the weather, my father-in-law built us a new raised garden bed - in typical Row fashion so that it will probably last forever. The last one got demolished from the November storm.

We've had a rough couple of months with our health - Jacob and I ended up with strep throat at the end of April/beginning of May, upper respiratory infections, and Jacob had his first (and hopefully last) asthma attack that brought him to the ER. I had already had an appointment scheduled for him and Sydney to have their allergies tested, so his appointment couldn't have come at a better time. Turns out the only thing he's allergic to is cats, and we have two! It's not so severe, though, that we need to get rid of them. The allergist just suggested we keep them out of his bedroom. I'm taking it a step further and getting rid of all the carpeting in the house. It was something I had planned on doing eventually since we're lucky enough to have beautiful hardwood floors underneath, but I felt a sense of urgency to get it done since all I could picture is dust and dander imbedded everywhere. No matter how much you vacuum and clean, that stuff isn't coming out of the carpet.

JUNE - Jacob's room got painted before having all the carpeting ripped out (the same day). That was yesterday... I'm now in the process of cleaning every surface of the house and putting everything back in the bedrooms, living room and dining room. a HUGE job (which is why I'm probably procrastinating and writing in the blog instead - haha!!). In between the painting and carpet rip out yesterday, I dug up a two-foot wide section of lawn next to the driveway and installed pavers and stone. It turned out pretty darned good! I'm exhausted, though, and trying to muster up the energy for the project facing me today (and I'm recovering from walking pneumonia). =P

Sydney had her ballet recital last week, and she did such a beautiful job!! It's her second year in ballet, and she is so graceful and strong. So proud of my sweet girl!

Only a few more days (well, half-days) left of school, and they're out for the summer!!! Woohoo!!

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Online Dating WARNING

Ladies, (and I'm sure this could apply to men just the same), if you are involved in the online dating thing - whether it's Match, E Harmony, Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, Christian Mingle, Tinder, etc., MAKE SURE you get the person's FULL NAME before you agree to meet with them. You would be surprised how many people lie about their actual name, age, and other important (and pretty basic) details.

If they're going to lie about this shit right from the beginning, then chances are they are just a plain liar. Do not get involved, and then block them.

Google, google, google. There is nothing wrong with that. It's not an invasion of privacy before agreeing to meet with someone. It's a responsible first step before putting yourself in potential danger. Please heed my advice. Giving them the benefit of the doubt only prolongs the inevitable.

Friday, February 6, 2015

"I think I know why my heart is so strong - because Daddy is in it."
~ Sydney

You and me both, sweetheart. <3 br="">